All relationships, not matter how strong and loving sometimes go through ups and downs! When a couples decide to go their separate ways, the pain this brings can be one of most difficult things to cope with, particularly when one or both still harbor feelings towards each other.After a break up, when all seems lost, there may be times when your ex might show you some interest and quite possibly express a willingness to go out with you again, something that may have been missing before.
You may notice that your ex is even attempting to flirt with you, and when that happens, even though there are reasons to be hopeful that things might turn out ok at the end, caution must be the key as you ask yourself: “Does my ex want to get back with me”?
You don’t need to be a relationship guru to know that flirting is a strong indicator that your ex is interested in getting you back. But whilst all you may be thinking about is that that you really want to get back with your ex, you should also be careful not to jump the gun. Or openly convey the message that all you want is to get back into the relationship you have recently lost as this would indicate that in spite of everything that has happened, you cannot cope with being on your own.
Whilst no one would advice you to play hard to get to the extent that your ex stops trying, it’s best to be “cool” with things, show an independence of spirit. This will have the desired outcome that you may be looking for and may cause your ex to want to mend things with you. At this stage, don’t go all out, because doing so may have the opposite effects and push your ex back even further. The rule of thumbs here is that if you see signs that he or she wants you back, then in all likelihood, playing hard to get often times rekindle the passions and hopes that all is not lost.
I am sure I don’t have to tell you that when a couple breaks up, it is nearly always the case that both still miss each other, long to get back together, particularly when a relationship has lasted a year or more before it came crashing down. As much as you miss your ex, he or she also probably misses you as memories of happy times together do not go away that easily. Of course, other emotions are in play here, including past regrets. If you are wondering “does my ex want to get back with me” the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons.
It is important for you to realize that there are times when an ex shows an interest after a break up, as part of a game, an attempt at proving that she or he “still has it”. Showing someone that you love him or her entails a willingness to open yourself up to that person, a level of trust that in some cases can be taken advantage of. In order words, your ex may enjoy the attention, may flirt with you and show you an interest in seeing you again, without actually ever intending to get you back.
Therefore, make sure that she or he is genuinely interested in spending time with you as a prelude for the resumption of your relationship rather than as part of game, with no real prospect of reconciliation. There are even cases when an ex is intent at revenge as a way to compensate for some perceived wrongs.
For this reason alone, you must ensure that you do not jump head first into anything. Make sure you go into this with your eyes open.
“Does my ex want to get back with me?” is quite possibly the one question you spend a lot of time agonizing over, and the only way you can achieve this is by being cautious. If your ex really does want to get back with you, be cool, play hard to get (don’t over do it) as the last thing you want to happen to you right now is to get hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.